October 3

OKTUBRE 3

Maliwanag, hindi ko alam kung ano ang pakikiramay, ngunit alam ko kung ano ang hindi iyon. Ang pakikiramay ay hindi paghihiganti, pagtatanim ng sama ng loob, pagtawag ng mga pangalan, o pagsigaw at paghagis ng mga bagay sa galit. Gayunpaman, iyon ang madalas kong pag-uugali sa taong ito na sinasabi kong mahal ko. Para sa akin, ang simula ng pag-aaral ng pakikiramay ay ang pag-alis ng gayong pag-uugali.

Bagama’t nahihirapan pa akong tukuyin ang pakikiramay, sa palagay ko ay nagsisimula ito sa pagkilala na nakikipag-ugnayan ako sa isang taong may sakit na kung minsan ay nagpapakita ng mga sintomas ng isang sakit. Hindi ko kailangang personal na dalhin ito kapag lumitaw ang mga sintomas na ito, tulad ng verbal abuse, at wala rin akong karapatang parusahan ang sinuman dahil sa pagkakasakit.

Ako ay isang karapat-dapat na tao. Hindi ko na kailangang umupo at sumalo ng pang-aabuso. Pero wala rin naman akong karapatan para ibigay ito.

Paalala sa Araw na Ito

Gugugulin ko ang mas maraming oras sa aking sarili sa buhay na ito kaysa sa iba. Hayaan akong matutong maging uri ng tao na gusto kong maging kaibigan.

“Siya na magkakaroon ng magagandang rosas sa kanyang hardin ay dapat magkaroon ng magagandang rosas sa kanyang puso.”

S.R. Hole

English Translation

OCTOBER 3

Clearly, I didn’t know what compassion was, but I knew what it was not. Compassion was not seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, or screaming and throwing things in anger. Yet that was how I frequently behaved toward this person I claimed to love. For me, the beginning of learning compassion was to eliminate such behavior.

While I still have a hard time defining compassion, I think it starts with the recognition that I am dealing with a sick person who sometimes exhibits symptoms of a disease. I don’t have to take it personally when these symptoms, such as verbal abuse, appear, nor do I have the right to punish anyone for being sick.

I am a worthwhile human being. I don’t have to sit and take abuse. But I have no right to dish it out, either.

Today’s Reminder

I will spend more time with myself in this lifetime than with anyone else. Let me learn to be the kind of person I would like to have as a friend.

“He who would have beautiful roses in his garden must have beautiful roses in his heart.”

S.R. Hole

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This website was created to determine if the collaborative power of the internet could be harnessed to spread the Alanon message to non-English speaking parts of the world farther and faster, while remaining true to the original texts of Alanon conference approved literature.

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