October 29

OKTUBRE 29

Nakipagtalo ako kamakailan sa isang taong mahalaga sa akin. Ginawa niya, masyadong publiko, ng ilang mga puna sa akin tungkol sa aking timbang, at ako ay hindi gaanong nasiyahan. Paglaon, nang sabihin ko sa kanya na nasaktan ang aking damdamin, iginiit niya na wala siyang ginawang mali—na totoo ang sinabi niya, kaya hindi ako dapat magtampo.

Gaano kadalas ko nabigyang-katwiran ang sarili kong kawalan ng kabaitan, o ang aking pakikialam kung saan wala akong alalahanin, sa mismong argumentong iyon? Napakaraming beses, lalo na sa mga araw ng pag-inom ng aking mahal sa alkoholiko. Pagkatapos ng lahat, inaangkin ko, tama ako: Sinisira ng alkohol ang aming buhay, at tungkulin kong sabihin ito-muli, at muli, at muli.

Natututo akong bitawan ang aking katiyakan tungkol sa kung ano ang dapat gawin ng ibang tao. Sa Al-Anon, narinig kong may nagsabing ganito: “Maaari akong maging tama o maaari akong maging masaya.” Hindi ko kailangang baguhin ang sinuman sa aking imahe. Sa tulong, kaya kong mabuhay at hayaang mabuhay.

Paalala sa Araw na Ito

Hindi ako insensitibo na tao, ngunit minsan nabibigyang-katwiran ko ang insensitibo na pag-uugali sa pamamagitan ng pag-aangkin na ako ay tama. Maaari kong igalang ang karapatan ng iba na gumawa ng kanyang sariling mga pagpipilian, kahit na lubos akong hindi sumasang-ayon. Ang aking mga relasyon ay bubuti kung maaari kong mahalin ang aking sarili nang sapat upang hayaan ang ibang mga tao na maging kanilang sarili.

“Panginoon, kapag kami ay mali, gawin mo kaming handang magbago. At kapag kami ay tama, gawing madali kaming pakisamahan.”

Peter Marshall

English Translation

OCTOBER 29

I recently had an argument with someone I care about. He had made, all too publicly, a few remarks to me about my weight, and I was less than pleased. Later, when I told him that my feelings were hurt, he insisted he had done nothing wrong—that what he had said was true, so I shouldn’t take offense.

How often have I justified my own unkindness, or my interfering where I had no business, with that very argument? Too many times, especially during my alcoholic loved one’s drinking days. After all, I claimed, I was right: Alcohol was ruining our lives, and it was my duty to say so again, and again, and again.

I am learning to let go of my certainty about what other people should do. In Al-Anon I heard someone put it this way: “I can be right or I can be happy.” I don’t have to make anyone over in my image. With help, I can live and let live.

Today’s Reminder

I am not an insensitive person, but at times I have justified insensitive behavior by claiming to be right. I can respect another’s right to make his or her own choices, even when I strongly disagree. My relationships will improve if I can love myself enough to let other people be themselves.

“Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change. And when we are right, make us easy to live with.”

Peter Marshall

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