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November 4

Minsan napipilitian ako na tanggapin ang hindi kasiya-siyang mga katotohanan. Maaari kong iwasan ang mga pagkabigo, ngunit nalaman ko na ang tanging paraan upang magkaroon ng katahimikan ay ang pagiging handa na tanggapin ang mga bagay na hindi ko mababago. Ang pagtanggap ay nagbibigay sa akin ng mga pagpipilian.

Halimbawa, isang araw tumawag ako sa aking Sponsor dahil ang alkoholiko at ako ay mayroong tiket sa isang konsyerto gabig iyon at natatakot akong malasing siya at mawalan ng malay bago pa man kami umalis sa bahay. Nangyari ito ng marami nang beses dati: Ang aming tiket ay masasayang, at matatapos ang gabi ng walang nangyari.

Sinuggest ng aking Sponsor na magkaroon ako ng mga back-up na plano sa tuwing ang aking mga plano ay nagsasangkot sa isang tao na hindi ko maaasahan. Ang Plan A ay ang orihinal na night out. Ang Plan B ay maaaring tumawag nang maaga sa isang kaibigan na Al-Anon, ipaliwanag ang sitwasyon, at alamin kung magiging interesado siya sa huling minutong paanyaya kung hindi natuloy ang Plan A. Ang Plan C ay maaaring lumabas at magsaya ng mag-isa. Ang bagong diskarte na ito aay isang mahusay na paraan upang maisagawa ang pagtanggap sa aking buhay.

 

Paalala Ngayon

Hindi ko na kailangang umasa sa isang tao o sitwasyon upang makapagpatuloy sa aking araw. Ngayon may mga pagpipilian na ako.

“Consider the little mouse, how sagacious an animal it is which never entrusts his life to one hole only.”

Plautus

English Translation

Sometimes I am called upon to accept unpleasant realities. I may wish to avoid disappointments, but I find that the only way to have serenity is to become willing to accept the things I cannot change. Acceptance gives me choices.
For instance, one day I called my Sponsor because the alcoholic and I had concert tickets for the evening, and I was afraid he would get drunk and pass out before it was time to leave the house. It had happened many times before: Our tickets would go to waste, and I’d spend the evening in despair.
My Sponsor suggested having back-up plans whenever my plans involved someone I couldn’t depend on. Plan A was the original night out. Plan B might be to call an Al-Anon friend in advance, explain the situation, and see if he or she would be interested in a last-minute invitation if Plan A fell through. Plan C might be to go by myself and have a good time. This new approach worked like a charm. It was a great way to put acceptance to work in my life.
Today’s Reminder
I no longer have to depend on any one person or situation in order to get on with my day. Today I have choices.
“Consider the little mouse, how sagacious an animal it is which never entrusts his life to one hole only.”
Plautus